Focus Seder Discussions
Question: In many homes, the Seder conversation is based on children telling linguistic pilpulim and adults arguing about halacha. Yet, the Torah’s intention seems to be to extol Hashem for His greatness and kindness. What should the stress be put on?
Answer: We must distinguish between the basics of the Seder and additional enhancements. You captured the Torah’s basic mitzva to tell about Yetzi’at Mitzrayim (the Exodus) on Seder night, as formulated by the Rambam (Chametz U’matza 7:1) and indeed p’sukim throughout the Torah. Let us add other central points.
The account of Yetzi’at Mitzrayim is not only an example of Divine kindness, but its associated miracles serve as a linchpin of our belief system (see Ramban, Sh’mot 13:16), similar to Matan Torah. The Torah stresses regarding both (see Sh’mot 10:2 and D’varim 4:9) the importance of the inter-generational chain, including parents and grandparents, confirming our deep belief. I have made a point at the Seder to have my children’s great-grandmother recall a Seder with her grandparents, where the latter fully believed the unbroken chain of testimony they relayed. I urged my children to tell this to their great-grandchildren. (Such links in the chain can extend over 200 years).
Chazal found it important to connect the remembrance of Yetzi’at Mitzrayim to both p’sukim and the mitzvot of the day. The core of Magid consists of the Rabbinic elucidation of a four-pasuk summary of the story (Arami Oved… D’varim 26:5-8). Rabban Gamliel says we must mention pesach, matza, and maror and explain their connection to the story of Yetzi’at Mitzrayim in order to fulfill our mitzva.
All these basics can be accomplished by joint reading of the Haggada with basic comprehension. But the Rabbis tell us that whoever increases the scope of talking about Yetzi’at Mitzrayim is praiseworthy. How is this done best? The simplest way is to continue speaking about the miracles and events (Rambam ibid.:1). Yet, this is not easy to do. There is no consensus of the texts one should use to provide additional stories of miracles. There are rarely family traditions (as there certainly were in the first generations) of what our ancestors experienced other than the general account of the Torah and Chazal.
Let us investigate some of the popular alternatives. You referred to analyzing the text of the Haggada. The model for doing so is the Haggada itself, which quotes classical texts (p’sukim) and analyzes them, not always to find new stories but also to connect concepts to the texts. In Talmudic study, Amora’im analyzed Tana’im, who analyzed p’sukim, and we analyze all the above. It likewise makes sense to analyze the Haggada, which is for us the classical source on the topic. Consider that thousands of talmidei chachamim have written commentaries focusing on various types of analysis of the Haggada text with the expectation that these ideas would be shared at the Seder.
Our children are supposed to be the focus of the Seder, and we should strongly consider their needs and interests. Generally, the abilities and religious needs of the speaker and the audience play a major role (Rambam, Sefer HaMitzvot, Asei 157; narrative of the Four Children). Some people internalize the message of Pesach best through theatrics, song, emotional expression, art… - and these can all be employed as appropriate.
The Rambam does not mention halachic discussion in this context, but the Rosh (P’sachim 10:33) and Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chayim 481:2) do, as the answer to the Wise Son implies. Considering the aforementioned idea of connecting the story to the performance of the mitzvot, it makes sense that the details of the mitzva are related as well. Therefore, halachic discussion of Pesach is in the spirit of the evening as long it does not qualitatively harm focus on relating the story deeply (see B’tzel Hachochma VI:47).
As Hallel and the custom to read Shir HaShirim after the Seder indicate, focusing on our relationship with Hashem is also in the spirit of the night.
Rav Daniel Mann, Eretz Hemdah Institute
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